Raquel Welch recently shared some wisdom with men about how they can create better sexual relationships. Her interview illustrates why many clueless men can learn a lot from really listening to women.
Ms. Welch believes that internet pornography has negatively affected American's men. She said that men's addiction to online erotica has damaged men's ability to relate to real women.
"We have equated happiness in life with as many orgasms as you can possibly pack in . . . it's just dehumanizing. And I have to honestly say, I think this era of porn is at least partially responsible for it. Where is the anticipation and the personalization? It’s all pre-fab now. You have these images coming at you unannounced and unsolicited. It just gets to be so plastic and phony to me. Maybe men respond to that. But is it really better than an experience with a real life girl that he cares about?
"I just imagine them sitting in front of their computers, completely annihilated. And it makes for laziness and a not very good sex partner.
"My fantasies were all made up on my own. Nobody remembers what it’s like to be left to form your own ideas about what’s erotic and sexual. I thought that was the fun of the whole thing. It’s my fantasy. I didn’t pick it off the Internet somewhere. It’s my fantasy."
Want more ideas about what women have to say about sexuality?
Here's an excerpt from this Clueless at the Top website (see Your Life-Sexuality):
“No,” Susan answers. “I’m going to get the hierarchy out of my bedroom.”
I’ve done the routine many times; I’m in search of something fresh.
I’m looking elsewhere than to those on top in matters of the flesh.
"Those on top?" Bonnie asks. "I guess you mean men." Susan explains:
Women know that heterosexual males are positioned right on top,
So we’ve gotten their limited perspective, for years, without a stop.
I've accepted that I’ll be waiting years, drawing on my pension,
If I expect males to bring sexuality a new dimension.
http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/raquel-welch
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
The message of the wolves
Long live the wolves! In Oregon, we have a history of honoring wolves, who are the sacred animal of the Kalapuyas, the people indigenous to the Willamette Valley where we live. Yet cattle ranchers are waging campaigns against them.
We think that the wolves symbolize something bigger than just issues with cattle. It's a question over whether lands are meant to be used by humans or preserved as wilderness. It's also a question of hierarchy – humans who believe that it's a god-given right for them to have dominion over all the other creatures on the earth.
Many of the ranchers who are actively working to kill wolves are actually leasing land from the federal government and their cattle graze in our national forests.
We have a friend who converted her 10,000 acre ranch from cattle to windpower. It's time to reconsider the real price of raising cattle for human consumption.
Researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health tracked people over 20 years, and found that people who daily consume only 3-ounces of red meat were 13 times more likely to die in that period than those who don't. So maybe it's time to decrease the use of cattle for food.
Raising animals for food is grossly inefficient, because while animals eat large quantities of grain, soybeans, oats, and corn, they only produce comparatively small amounts of meat, dairy products, or eggs in return. You save more water by not eating a pound of meat than you do by not showering for six months!
It takes up to 16 pounds of grain to produce just 1 pound of meat, and even fish on fish farms must be fed up to 5 pounds of wild-caught fish to produce 1 pound of farmed fish flesh. It takes more than 11 times as much fossil fuel to make one calorie from animal protein as it does to make one calorie from plant protein.
It takes more than 2,400 gallons of water to produce 1 pound of meat, while growing 1 pound of wheat only requires 25 gallons. A totally vegan diet requires only 300 gallons of water per day, while a typical meat-eating diet requires more than 4,000 gallons of water per day. Nearly half of all the water used in the United States goes to raising animals for food.
Animals raised for food in the U.S. produce far more excrement than the entire U.S. human population, roughly 89,000 pounds per second, all without the benefit of waste-treatment systems.
We can greatly increase our health and the health of the planet by decreasing our consumption of meat.
http://motherjones.com/environment/2011/04/new-mexico-gray-wolf-reintroduction
http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/03/14/us-health-redmeat-idUSBRE82C1AT20120314
http://www.peta.org/issues/animals-used-for-food/meat-wastes-natural-resources.aspx
We think that the wolves symbolize something bigger than just issues with cattle. It's a question over whether lands are meant to be used by humans or preserved as wilderness. It's also a question of hierarchy – humans who believe that it's a god-given right for them to have dominion over all the other creatures on the earth.
Many of the ranchers who are actively working to kill wolves are actually leasing land from the federal government and their cattle graze in our national forests.
We have a friend who converted her 10,000 acre ranch from cattle to windpower. It's time to reconsider the real price of raising cattle for human consumption.
Researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health tracked people over 20 years, and found that people who daily consume only 3-ounces of red meat were 13 times more likely to die in that period than those who don't. So maybe it's time to decrease the use of cattle for food.
Raising animals for food is grossly inefficient, because while animals eat large quantities of grain, soybeans, oats, and corn, they only produce comparatively small amounts of meat, dairy products, or eggs in return. You save more water by not eating a pound of meat than you do by not showering for six months!
It takes up to 16 pounds of grain to produce just 1 pound of meat, and even fish on fish farms must be fed up to 5 pounds of wild-caught fish to produce 1 pound of farmed fish flesh. It takes more than 11 times as much fossil fuel to make one calorie from animal protein as it does to make one calorie from plant protein.
It takes more than 2,400 gallons of water to produce 1 pound of meat, while growing 1 pound of wheat only requires 25 gallons. A totally vegan diet requires only 300 gallons of water per day, while a typical meat-eating diet requires more than 4,000 gallons of water per day. Nearly half of all the water used in the United States goes to raising animals for food.
Animals raised for food in the U.S. produce far more excrement than the entire U.S. human population, roughly 89,000 pounds per second, all without the benefit of waste-treatment systems.
We can greatly increase our health and the health of the planet by decreasing our consumption of meat.
http://motherjones.com/environment/2011/04/new-mexico-gray-wolf-reintroduction
http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/03/14/us-health-redmeat-idUSBRE82C1AT20120314
http://www.peta.org/issues/animals-used-for-food/meat-wastes-natural-resources.aspx
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Tennessee Treasure
We've followed Pat Summitt's career from the beginning. We were both students at the University of Tennessee when it all started.
Charlotte remembers talking to the women's basketball team while they were selling donuts to raise money for their travel and uniforms. The team set up at a table outside Alumni Hall, a physical education facility where they played because they did not have their own gymnasium in which to practice or play games. Pat was a graduate student (Charlotte was too) and made $250/month. Pat laundered the team uniforms and drove the van that took them to their games. Meanwhile, the men enjoyed scholarships, travel budgets, high-paid coaches.
When Harriet went to the women's Final Four in Mt. Pleasant, Michigan in 1980, Tennessee lost the title game in an event that has little in common with today's tournaments – fans could walk into the small gym and purchase a ticket on the spot, while music was furnished by local high school pep bands.
It's been so fun and exciting for us to watch the progress of women's basketball over the last decades, and especially Pat Summitt and the Tennessee Lady Vols. Last night as we watched them play in the Elite Eight, it felt like it could be the end of Pat's career as Tennessee Head Coach.
But her influence will live on and on an on. Pat Summitt has done so much to crush the gender hierarchy in sports. There are millions of women across the world whose athletic opportunities are the legacies of Pat Summitt's tireless dedication, hard work, humor, and brilliance.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/27/sports/ncaabasketball/summitt-sticks-to-business-as-others-celebrate-her-career.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1
Charlotte remembers talking to the women's basketball team while they were selling donuts to raise money for their travel and uniforms. The team set up at a table outside Alumni Hall, a physical education facility where they played because they did not have their own gymnasium in which to practice or play games. Pat was a graduate student (Charlotte was too) and made $250/month. Pat laundered the team uniforms and drove the van that took them to their games. Meanwhile, the men enjoyed scholarships, travel budgets, high-paid coaches.
When Harriet went to the women's Final Four in Mt. Pleasant, Michigan in 1980, Tennessee lost the title game in an event that has little in common with today's tournaments – fans could walk into the small gym and purchase a ticket on the spot, while music was furnished by local high school pep bands.
It's been so fun and exciting for us to watch the progress of women's basketball over the last decades, and especially Pat Summitt and the Tennessee Lady Vols. Last night as we watched them play in the Elite Eight, it felt like it could be the end of Pat's career as Tennessee Head Coach.
But her influence will live on and on an on. Pat Summitt has done so much to crush the gender hierarchy in sports. There are millions of women across the world whose athletic opportunities are the legacies of Pat Summitt's tireless dedication, hard work, humor, and brilliance.
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/27/sports/ncaabasketball/summitt-sticks-to-business-as-others-celebrate-her-career.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1
Monday, March 19, 2012
Sex with Dave
Has their personal sexual issues motivated hierarchy-conservators to hold on to their hierarchies during in the last 50 years of fast change? In a recent article in the Los Angeles Times, Nancy Cohen traces decades of a counterrevolution, a backlash, to the 1960's sexual revolution.
While it seems like Hi-Cons are obsessed with power and greed, maybe deep down they are just trying to resolve their personal sexual issues.
They are trying to drag us into their outdated hierarchies – predictable of those on top – as forty years later, we're still debating birth control and other issues focused on sexual roles and rights. If you haven't seen this video of Virginia legislator Dave Albo, go to the youtube link below to why hierarchies are so outdated that they can't survive anymore.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbLsy9eKBlI
http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-cohen-counterrevolution-20120304,0,1935127.story
While it seems like Hi-Cons are obsessed with power and greed, maybe deep down they are just trying to resolve their personal sexual issues.
They are trying to drag us into their outdated hierarchies – predictable of those on top – as forty years later, we're still debating birth control and other issues focused on sexual roles and rights. If you haven't seen this video of Virginia legislator Dave Albo, go to the youtube link below to why hierarchies are so outdated that they can't survive anymore.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vbLsy9eKBlI
http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-cohen-counterrevolution-20120304,0,1935127.story
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Washington Whiteskins
We are happy to see that the Oregon state education board is revisiting a possible ban on the use of American Indian school mascots. If you're having trouble understanding why the schools need to change their mascots, maybe a role reversal will help.
In a hierarchical role reversal, the higher group takes on the role of the lower, while the lower group plays the part usually played by the higher. We imagine the same scene played over again, however this time with roles switched.
What do you think would happen if: In autumn and winter, tens of thousands of fans pile into stadiums to cheer the Washington Whiteskins football team. The team mascot, a priest in a black robe and white clerical collar, performs Holy Communion on the field as a ritual to spur the rowdy fans and team to victory!
http://www.oregonlive.com/pacific-northwest-news/index.ssf/2012/03/post_58.html
In a hierarchical role reversal, the higher group takes on the role of the lower, while the lower group plays the part usually played by the higher. We imagine the same scene played over again, however this time with roles switched.
What do you think would happen if: In autumn and winter, tens of thousands of fans pile into stadiums to cheer the Washington Whiteskins football team. The team mascot, a priest in a black robe and white clerical collar, performs Holy Communion on the field as a ritual to spur the rowdy fans and team to victory!
http://www.oregonlive.com/pacific-northwest-news/index.ssf/2012/03/post_58.html
Friday, March 9, 2012
All You Need is Love
"They are views underpinning of Western civilization for 2,000 years" - that's how Kirk Cameron defended his saying that gay people are "detrimental to civilization."
We couldn't agree more about the 2,000 years! Hierarchies have been the underpinning of Western Civilization for two milleneums, including the 2,000 years since the Roman Christian church was founded.
"I can assuredly say that it's my life's mission to love all people," said Cameron. All people? Is Cameron willing to love all people only if they stay in their bottom role of being judged by the top as being of less value to civilization?
Cameron is illustrating one of the consistent and predictable attitudes of people who follow hierarchical religions – people at the top of their hierarchies believe that everyone needs to be like them in order to be acceptable.
http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/kirk-cameron-defends-homosexuality-diatribe-life-mission-love-people-article-1.1034106?
We couldn't agree more about the 2,000 years! Hierarchies have been the underpinning of Western Civilization for two milleneums, including the 2,000 years since the Roman Christian church was founded.
"I can assuredly say that it's my life's mission to love all people," said Cameron. All people? Is Cameron willing to love all people only if they stay in their bottom role of being judged by the top as being of less value to civilization?
Cameron is illustrating one of the consistent and predictable attitudes of people who follow hierarchical religions – people at the top of their hierarchies believe that everyone needs to be like them in order to be acceptable.
http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/kirk-cameron-defends-homosexuality-diatribe-life-mission-love-people-article-1.1034106?
Monday, March 5, 2012
What would Rush Limbaugh call Helen Keller?
Would Rush Limbaugh call Helen Keller a slut and a prostitute? Would he insist that he and his cronies be able to watch videos of Ms. Keller's sexual encounters?
Turn back a century.
One hundred years ago exactly, in 1912, Helen Keller – then one of the most recognized and celebrated women in the United States – spoke out publicly in favor of birth control, and in support of Margaret Sanger. Keller is cited as giving the movement some of its best publicity to date and furthering the national public debate.
The hierarchy conservators are getting desperate in their death struggle, as evidenced by the fact that they would pick a debate that's 100 years old. A whole century has passed them by!
http://www.nyu.edu/projects/sanger/secure/newsletter/articles/keller.htm
http://www.tolerance.org/supplement/left-out
Turn back a century.
One hundred years ago exactly, in 1912, Helen Keller – then one of the most recognized and celebrated women in the United States – spoke out publicly in favor of birth control, and in support of Margaret Sanger. Keller is cited as giving the movement some of its best publicity to date and furthering the national public debate.
The hierarchy conservators are getting desperate in their death struggle, as evidenced by the fact that they would pick a debate that's 100 years old. A whole century has passed them by!
http://www.nyu.edu/projects/sanger/secure/newsletter/articles/keller.htm
http://www.tolerance.org/supplement/left-out
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