"We’ve spent so much life-force on looking good but not too good, being
professional but not unapproachable, while the guys just got on with
life. And what of the massive costs of permanent vigilance, the tense
smiles, declined work assignments and lost chances that are our daily
job of trying to avoid assault? Can we get some backpay?"
That is a quote from the article in The Guardian by Barbara Kingsolver entitled, "#MeToo Isn't Enough, Now Women Need to Get Ugly."
In a powerful opinion piece, Ms. Kingsolver includes topics steeped in hierarchy such as football and religion. "Nothing changes until truly powerful offenders start to fall. Feminine
instincts for sweetness and apology have no skin in this game. It’s
really not possible to overreact to uncountable, consecutive days of
being humiliated by men who say our experience isn’t real, or that we
like it actually, or are cute when we’re mad."
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/jan/16/metoo-women-daughters-harassment-powerful-men
